Helping Your Teen Navigate Big Life Changes
Adolescence and young adulthood are full of big transitions—starting high school, moving, dealing with family changes, or even shifting friendships. These changes can stir up a mix of emotions, and it’s not always easy for teens to handle them on their own. As parents, understanding what’s going on beneath the surface can make a big difference in helping them through it.​
How Teens React to Change
Emotional Ups and Downs: Big changes can bring out a lot of different emotions. One day, your teen might seem excited about a fresh start, and the next, they’re overwhelmed or shutting down. This is normal—change can feel unpredictable, and teens are still learning how to manage their emotions.
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Behavioral Shifts: You might notice your teen becoming more withdrawn, irritable, or even acting out in ways they normally wouldn’t. Stress from change can sometimes show up as mood swings, trouble sleeping, or even physical complaints like headaches or stomach aches.
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Increased Anxiety or Self-Doubt: Even if a change is positive, like getting into a great school, it can still bring anxiety. Teens might worry about fitting in, handling new responsibilities, or whether they’ll be able to meet expectations.
How You Can Help
Keep Communication Open: Let your teen know they can talk to you—without fear of judgment. Sometimes, they just need a listening ear. Even if they don’t feel like talking much, remind them you’re there when they’re ready.
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Provide Some Stability: While change can feel chaotic, keeping certain routines steady (like family dinners, weekend traditions, or regular check-ins) can help give your teen a sense of security.
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Let Them Have Some Control: When everything feels out of their hands, giving teens choices—even small ones—can help them feel more in control. Let them have a say in decisions when possible, whether it’s picking their extracurricular activities or deciding how they want to organize their time.
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Be Patient and Supportive: Adjusting takes time. Encourage them, validate their feelings, and remind them that they don’t have to have everything figured out right away.
When to Seek Help
If your teen is struggling to adjust and it’s affecting their mood, school performance, or overall well-being, talking to a professional might be a good step.
Counseling can help them work through their feelings, build coping skills, and gain confidence as they navigate changes. At Eagle Lane Counseling, we specialize in working with teens and young adults, and we’re here to support your family through these transitions.
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Ready to Get Started?
If you think your teen could benefit from extra support, we’re here to help. Schedule a n appointment today to assess any need for counseling can support your teen (and you) through life’s big changes.